We've been invited to a party this weekend down on the Great Ocean Road. The party aside, DP and I would like to go away for the weekend. DP's currently on leave (he has to take leave when he's told to) but we can't go for a big holiday because we have a 16-year-old DSD and it's not school holidays. Which means we won't get a proper family holiday until next year.
Anyhow, DSD doesn't want to come with us. That leave us with a dilemma:
1. Just don't go (and basically have our holidays dictated by whether a 16-year-old wants to come).
2. Put our foot down and make her come.
3. Allow her to stay in Melbourne and arrange with one of her friends to sleepover at their house for two nights. Obviously we would talk to the friend's parent and ensure that she is actually going to sleep there. Would you take her key off her too?
4. Offer that she can bring a friend with her for the weekend - we've given her that choice but she didn't seem too keen.
It's not really a question of trust - DSD has not been in any trouble since she's lived with us and she's been very responsible. I guess I just feel like an irresponsible parent leaving her behind in Melbourne ... but at the same time don't want her needs to trump ours.
I think the sleeping over at her friends place sounds like the best option. As far as having a key, would there be any need for her to go back to your place? If she takes everything she needs I don't think I'd leave a key. Hope you work everything out.
Definatly go with # 2 or 3 . It will be nice for your to have a weekend away
If DSD decides that bringing a g/f with her is her final choice, you have to pick the right g/f, some
girls get along really well for a whole weekend others dont
My parents left me for a weekend with a friend at home when I was that age HOWEVER my dad was the local cop in a one man police station so I had the eyes of the town on me anyways
In Melbourne, nup I wouldnt leave her either - and I agree see if she can stay with a friends - I wouldnt take the keys off her (but think up a trap so you would know if she has been home - one that 16yo don't think we are smart enough to know - like, leaving the toilet seat up - automatically put it down and prob dont think to put it back up again hehehehe)
I would do #3 or 4 - either she stays with a friend that you know & trust and she knows you have spoken to the parents or she comes with you and brings a friend. If you force her to go alone she could make the weekend miserable for you by sulking the whole time but if she has a friend they are likely to just do their own thing and let you enjoy yourself.
My parents left me for the weekend when I was 16 and I had a big party and nearly trashed the house
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