I am not planning on telling DSD until 12 weeks either, I don't think its fair on her if something goes wrong - as I know she will be so excited. While I don't have an issue with children learning what real life is all about, I think that it's also important to be careful. She is going to be over the moon, and I want her to be able to share it immediately..... Therefore... We are waiting to 12 weeks.... Which puts it smack bang in the week before Christmas what a lovely Christmas present!!!