Invite here, as if the others girls are going to be like that she doesn't need them as friends, and the girl with the issues may not want to come anyway due to being worried and embarrassed. Maybe her mum would bring her for dinner and fun and pick her up in evening before sleeping?
I would sit down with your DD and ask her to put herself in the shoes of the girl if she is the only one not invited.
Tell her sometimes a little kindness can go a long way and that, if Anything, the girl needs extra support and friendship, not being excluded and shunned.
I would do what n2l said. And also ask her how she thinks might be the best way to respond if her friends say anything negative about inviting the girl.
This really is one of "those" moments, where your daughter can do something great and learn a good lesson. I think you should invite the girl. I know at 11 I would have struggled to understand but in the long run I know I would always want friends with continence problems over ones that would shun a party because I'd invited someone with continence problems.
Well she made the decision herself to invite her. She knows the 3 girls she's closest to won't care & will be here no matter what. She's never made this girl feel left out or uncomfortable like the other kids do, but with peer pressure she does say the same *****y crap the others say when the girl isn't around.
The girl wasn't at school today though, so hopefully she will be tomorrow. I'd hate her to feel left like she was left out on purpose!
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