Ds started kindy about 8 weeks ago.
This is his first "formal" learning environment, he has been at home with me since he was born. No day care, etc, etc.

There have been a few incidences at the kindy,
one day when I took him in, he chose a seat next to a little boy, who turns to me and says "Jacob is a naughty boy" I said " oh, is he now?" he then says, "yeah, he is a bit naughty"

then another day we go in, a little early, only one little girl eating her lunch, her mum is one of the parent helpers, I ask J where he wants to sit, he plonks himself next to the little girl, who immediately starts packing her lunch up, her mum notices and says "what do you think youre doing? you can stay right there" mum walks out, little girl gives me a smarmy look and packs up and moves to another table...

then today... we get there a little later than usual, only 2 spots left to eat lunch, a table full of girls and a table full of boys, J wants to sit at the boys table, so we go over and I see the childs name on his lunch box, "here we go, you can sit next to D" J sits, then D starts screaming "I DONT WANT HIM TO SIT NEXT TO ME!!!!!!!! NO, NO, NO!!!"
I probably just gaped at him for a minute, then just said, "well thats not very nice is it?" I looked around for a carer but everyone was chatting away and seemingly oblivious to the situation....
So I said goodbye to J (who also seems oblivious) and left...

my heart is a bit broken for him though... wehave had chats about him making friends, his second week, after being told by him that he plays by himself every day, I asked him why he didnt play with any of the kids, he said they wont play with him, I asked why and he said that its because he yells at them.. oookay, que chat about introducing yourslef and asking to play etc...

DP and I were called in for an interview last week, about J's progress, they were concerned about his development, tbh I really think that much of their concern is due to the fact that they dont see kids who stay at home (no daycare) anymore... they have admitted that this is the case when I brought it up. gee they actually have to work! LOL

they think he may be behind a bit developmentally, with low muscle tone, have organised a session witha speechie etc... they asked if he was prem, or had any major ilnesses etc.. basically he is very advanced in lots of areas but very sl;ow in others ... when I explained about the whole tonsil/adenoid/oxygen thing, the director was quite relieved and actually said "well that all makes sense now!"

J is still excited to go to kindy and see all the kids, play etc, he has not once said he doesnt want to go. but it seems like every day he has some new thing to tell me about how someone said this to him, or someone did this to him etc, etc..

I just dont know what to make of it...