This is the first year DD has been in formal care (3 yr old kinder 3hrs twice a week). I have been surprised at how quick the first term has gone.

Some of the carers responses, or non responses, that you described would concern me more than your little one adjusting to the different environment. However, it is promising that they are organising appts for assessment for you. Maybe they are adnavced in some areas and not in others too.

I wonder if having a play date out of kinder with one or two of the kids might help him on kinder days. Give them a boost in getting to know each other when there is not so much going on.