Daughter being harrassed

[Chocaholic]

I agree with the others. Go to the principal and if you are not happy with his/her response, go to the Education Dept ASAP. Tell the principal that you are NOT happy that you weren't informed about the sexual harrassment of your daughter.

Also I would be requesting counselling for the boys if that is possible. The must have picked it up somewhere and if it is at home, then they need to be protected too.

[DiannaQ]

I agree go to the principal even if it's just to let them know that you're not going to take this lightly.

Poor DD and poor you - and someone needs to teach these boys some manners - gosh I'm dreading the school years already - little $hits

[Je$$_84]

OMG... I couldnt believe what i was reading ... I really hope ur DD is ok.... I have a DS and would be mortified to find out he was behaving like this...And a DD and would be freaking out if it were her. i think that the parents of both/all kids involved should have been notified especially because of the nature of what is happening... No one should ever be in this position especially not someone in Yr4

My husband says this would be sexual harrassment if it was in the work place, and that they should suffer severe consequences.

If this was done in high school even it would be delt with as sexual harrassment... It is no way at all on...

I would see the principle.. But also have a good chat with your DS... Hopefully this is the first and last of this situation... i just wanna give her a BIG hugs... poor girl... what a horrible thing to go through.

[saslia]

Hello - My name is Stewart. The computer was on when I got home from work. As a secondary teacher (3 dd's ??) I know exactl how you feel. As a male (and a dad) like everyone says .. this is not on. Fact is - its bullying. Bullying in most schools (in wa anyway) is a suspendable offence. Give the school a day to listen to your little one's story and see how they respond. Ask the principal what was the consequence of the behaviour. If it is a suspension - then usually this calls for a conference before the students are allowed back into school. This is where you inform the parents of your side of the argument. Insist that you go. If these boys arent suspended - ask why, and ask loudly and often.

I hope this is of a little help. Unfortunatately - this advice is coming from a male. My daughter attends the same high school I teach at. The one incidence of bullying this year she had my response was to line up the little sod and give him the true story of how Dads look after their daughters (which would end up in a negative manner for him !!!!!) My 12 year old was more worried about me doing that then anything the bully said.

Good Luck - and remember, dont stop until you are satisfied with the outcome.

[mrsmac]

At this age those kind of comments can sometimes indicate that the children themselves have had some kind of sexual harrassment/abuse. I would go to the principal or the Primary assistant principal and talk to them.

[Phteven]

your poor little girl. What a horrid experience.
I disagree totally with the teacher's assesment that it was dealth with because if it had been properly dealt with they would be aware of how totally unacceptable such behaviour is. As a society, if we don't teach boys what kind of sexual behaviour is acceptable we're letting them and our daughters down. I think that for your daughter's sake and for their sake you should approach the principal and insist on stronger measures for innappropriate behaviour - you're doing them a favour in the long run by sending them a clear message.

[Beckibee]

Meg, I can't believe poor little Tilly is having to go through this. What gets me most is what appears to be a very blase attitude of her teacher towards the whole situation.

Can you organise an appointment with Tilly, the teacher and yourself? It doesn't sound as though she feels very comfortable discussing what was said with the teacher (what little girl would?!) on her own and maybe needs your support?