That is terrible! Obviously you need to feel comfortable if you do talk to the acting Prin, but I reckon if you cry then he should just suck it up! It is possible that your DD does not recall the exact words he said, and maybe she up has interpreted in a different way to exactly what he said, but nevertheless, it sounds bad, and he would deserve you to be there having a go at him and bursting into tears! He will probabky deny it though...

oculd you speak to the social work first and get the tears out of your system, then talk to him?? If you do talk to him might be best to tak about how you are not happy with your daugheter being made to feel like bully, and it would have bed better if he investigated it without judging. You could also write a letter saying you are too upset to talk about this, but are very unhappy, send a copy to him and a copy to the principal when they return (so it does not get lost!)

your poor DD