Hugs, I'd be mighty peeved at everything that went on in the interview, too. I sense your school is similar to the one my eldest 3 attend. Almost feels as if you're on a 'need to know' basis, and you didn't need to know of any issues... Until now, due to reports?

Week 2 of the school year we have a meet the teacher/parent night, just to address any issues with the teacher s/he may need to know about and vice versa. My DD2 had been telling stories that were very upsetting to me. It was taken to the principals office, and until this night, never told to me (and the stories were about my existence). I was so angry, the next day I spoke with the principal and demanded I be called should anything happen again.

Now, 2 weeks ago we had parent teacher interviews, like yourself due to reports. DD2 (grade 1) was struggling in class and I had no idea. She never speaks up and I thought she was going super well. 6 months into the school year and not once did her teacher say she wasn't coping. Furious again!! I'm now expected to pick up the slack at home. Whilst I don't mind, I send my kids, to school to be taught by a trained professional.

As as for a PP comment of calling or emailing, works for some teachers/schools, but not ours. No messages get passed on, calls aren't returned, teachers don't give out their addresses. All communication is done by booked interviews that suits the teacher. If I have an issue, I have to write a letter, they read it, then teacher contacts me.

I really really hate the school

If I was you, I'd be trying to arrange a meeting with the teacher + principal, after the holidays and bring up all your concerns and feelings