Thank you all for your replies! I have read every one of them, good and bad!

I want to clarify a few things - Yes, I had not met the teacher before now. I do not do any of the school runs for Hayley, my eldest DD does this, and she has met the teacher on my behalf a number of times. She has spoken to her, clarified issues, and the teacher knows that she can speak to her about anything! Which she has done a couple of times. So its not like we have made no effort to have any sort of communication with the school.

Last year, I had a complete mental breakdown and have suffered serious mental health issues since then, this has made things very difficult for me. I find it very difficult to do the stuff that I used to, which is extremely frustrating.

I am doing my best here, trying to work on the things that I know can do. I have been working with Hayley on the things she needs to improve on and she seems happy to do it. I have also spoken to her about the issues with her bestie and what actually happened and why she didn't tell us! She knew it was wrong! We had a very long talk about it and what she thinks should happen and whether she thinks that this friendship is a good choice to make considering the amount of trouble she gets into. She has thought about it and said that she thinks it best that she talks to her a little outside of school but not be overly friendly, but she isn't going to tell her friend though as she will be upset and go and tell the teacher on her!

I can only do so much. I will try to keep in touch a little more often with the teacher, even if it is via email, and see how things are going! We will see if things improve, my DD says that the teacher doesn't like her, so I think that is impacting on her school work. But hey, only another 6 months and we can move onto another teacher, and hopefully it will be a better one!