DS1 has been suspended. Its a long suspension. I am extremely disappointed in my sons actions leading to this suspension and have told him for all his life that violence solves nothing. I give him coping strategies and he knows well and demonstrates often - at home at least - an ability to think his words and actions through before he uses them. A week and a bit ago, he is in class and two boys are - as per usual - hassling him relentlessly. They can be cruel as is well known about other kids. He uses every strategy taught to him. Leave me alone. I am not listening, etc etc. They don't let up. Something in him snaps and he turns around and punches them.

The Deputy Principal paints a horrible violent picture and excessive suffering by the other students. However when the police call he to has a story from the vice, far worse than the one he told me and the story that he was told by everyone else, including the medical staff called in by he deputy, was far less dramatic. Does not excuse what DS did, but upsets me also because I do not feel that the level of victimisation he has suffered has even been close to accurately portrayed, so the deputy is making my son out to be someone he is not. Rhe police officer has said that they will not be taking it further as they do not feel that DS should be any further crucified.

Just then I had a call from the local suspension centre. She once again mentions taking DS to a paediatrician and I advise her that we have been informed that a Paed can only look at medical causes and medicate those causes. You cannot medicate bullies away. She then turns around and says to me (paraphrased) "Yes but there has to be more to why DS is being bullied. There has to be a medical reason or a home reason why they are picking on him. And you have to look into these reasons or he is not going to survive high school".......

Hang on. Did she just blame Me and DS for him being bullied??????

What do you think. Does she have a point or are they just doing more buck passing?