Frangipani: that was my concern too, J being labelled a "naughty kid" from what I have gathered though the kindy does apply the dealing with the behaviour, not the child type thing (sorry brain fried at the minute, Im sure you get my meaning!)

J was very delayed in walking and crawling, talking etc... when he had the choking in his sleep thing happening last yera and we discovered his abnormally large tonsils and adenoids, after his op, the docs all said that due to his deprivation of normal oxygen levels that was all to be expected, J has improved in leaps and bounds since then (almost a year ago exactly now)

The kindy has involved him in one of their specialised motor skills groups, where a small group of kids goes to the oval/gym to do some gross motor skills activities, he really enjoys it (according to the director) they think he may have low muscle tone due to the fact that he refuses to sit cross legged on the floor, he will lay, kneel, etc, but not sit.

For the first week, I heard that they couldnt even get him to come inside for "quiet time" he was on the playground, outside, so they let him do his thing, until eventually he got the gist of it and what all the other kids were doing...

The director is lovely, J and I get along with her famously, there is one lady there though (who is a trained childhood educator?) who gets on my nerves as she speaks to me as if I were a 4 year old too, I dont like when adults speak down to kids, it just doesnt sit right with me, J doesnt like her much either, if we arrive and she is there, he goes in to sleep walk mode, all limp and closes his eyes, goes all mute, so I'm assuming that the two of them have had some kind of run in.

Director has said that she will call us back in either before the end of term or in the beginning ofthe new one, to discuss J's progress, I think I might need to start keeping a list of concerns to go over with her..