Officially too far

[Fleur]

It is really crazy that you are not getting the support you need from the school. I would definitely be getting people involved at a higher level.

:yeahthat:

hugs Inertia, and good luck getting it sorted.

[Inertia]

Sorry I havent replied to anyone here in ages, we have been no end of drama with this school recently. The end result so far has been that when Chez's grandmother discovered how serious it was getting there she made arrangements to move Chez in with her - glad I encouraged her to talk to her nan again because at least now she is safe from it all. We have also bit the bullet and made the ultimate decision to pick up stumps and move on (Among other reasons). I honestly do not like the idea of being 'chased out of town' by a pack of unruly 13 year olds, but I have to consider the safety of my entire family and they have over the holidays been riding past our house screaming abuse and obscenities at us so it just makes me worry how much worse it could get. Have put in our returns to get the supplements to have a bond ready and the money to go look well out of town. There is just nothing here for any of us.

Anyway, the worst of it was a few weeks back, the girls caught wind of a plan for 20 odd boys to beat up CJ the next day at school, so we kept him home. A friend of the girls saw another girl pull one of the boys aside and showed him the knife she brought to school for the fight until he told her CJ wasnt there that day. The friend told the girls who went straight in and reported it, then told us when they got home. DH called the school the next day and spoke to the acting deputy who told him "Yes we know about that and we have spoken to her and she has been told not to bring it again".... i kid you, that was ALL they did. They swept a student bringing a knife to school with intent to use it on another student under the rug!! I am utterly gobsmacked. We have been in touch with the DoE who are of course getting misdirected by the school about my kids refusing to enter classrooms (with kids known to cause them grief) and they are basically trying to turn it around and make it look like my kids are the problem and we are just a couple of parents wearing rose coloured glasses.

I never in my life dreamed it would be an us vs them thing. I cant take this. In a vain effort to protect their reputation they are running my kids down, sweeping serious offences under the carpet and basically lying to any authority we try and get to help. We have been left feeling choiceless. I mean we deal with the threats and abuse from these kids outside the school ground too now because the school has basically enabled it through inaction. Now despite us going in several times, they have never been punished so they have upped the ante. I barely get any sleep now I know they know where we live. I don't want to be in this situation any more. We are crying for help and when these people ask the school for information they make us out to be delusional nutcases.

I am not really expecting any advice. I dont really think there is anything more than can be done. I just wanted to vent and update you lovely ladies how this is going at the same time.

[squidipa]

i would be moving to if i was you good on you for doing so ur doing the right thing keeping your kids safe.

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

Have you contactd the police about the anti-social behaviour towards you and your household? That is seperate to the school so it shouldn't matter if the school pooh-poohs it: this is no longer "just some children who don't get on" but it is a gang of ferral children verbally abusing adults and very young children. The police don't have to get in touch with the DREADFUL school about this to find "fault" or have your children blamed: THEY are the problem in this case and NEED a criminal record (IMO).

[Inertia]

ty squidpa. It just seems to be the best most viable solution in the end.

Hey LZ. Not yet as I dont know their names. Angel and Chilly are thus far unaware that these kids are continuing their harrassment here and I havent yet got them to come out and identify the kids. I know I have to but I just hate the idea that i have to tell the kids about it. They feel safe here, iykwim.

[Bumperstump Cummerbund]

Far out BR :shakeshead: Most schools are so useless when it comes to bullying - you'd think with school shootings and stabbings and fights posted on youtube they'd be a bit more 'aware'.

I agree with LZ (as usual ) - you've gone through the school and they've dropped the ball. On several occasions. I'd get the Police involved, firstly on the knife business, and then use that as a springboard to get to the anti social behaviour of these other kids. I know its hard, and you don't want to make your kids feel unsafe - but YOU don't feel that your family's safe. You've gotta trust your mummy instinct, and all of us can see that there's definitely reason not to trust these kids. By involving your kids, while they may be shocked and somewhat frightened by the knowledge that these kids are bringing it up a notch, they will also see what you're doing to keep them safe, by involving the police, even pursuing a restraining order if necessary. And then they'll feel safe again, in the knowledge that you pushed right back to protect your family.

[littlelara]

Wow. I keep thinking about your situation, wondering what I would do in your place, and I really have no clue.
I'm so sorry you're going through this, it must be so awful for you.
Is there an ombudsmen you can talk to or some higher power?
Whether you move away or not, these kids need to be held accountable and not given more power by being allowed to think they ran you out of town IYKWIM.
I hope you can find a place where you all feel safe x