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  1. #1
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    Jul 2007
    Glenroy
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    Wow. I keep thinking about your situation, wondering what I would do in your place, and I really have no clue.
    I'm so sorry you're going through this, it must be so awful for you.
    Is there an ombudsmen you can talk to or some higher power?
    Whether you move away or not, these kids need to be held accountable and not given more power by being allowed to think they ran you out of town IYKWIM.
    I hope you can find a place where you all feel safe x

  2. #2
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    Apr 2009
    in the garden
    3,767

    Oh man...that is awful. I'm so sorry you're going through all this & I wish I had something useful to say I agree though it's probably a good idea to move, I'd be doing the same. Not worth staying just to prove a point, you know?
    I can't believe the school is so blase about it it must be frustrating beyond belief.

  3. #3
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    Oct 2006
    Sydney NSW
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    In NSW bringing a weapon to school is an automatic suspension so the school is being completely negligent in not suspending the child immediately.
    Sadly I think moving is your best option, not really fair that children can drive you out of your home but it seems the only option left.

  4. #4
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    Apr 2009
    Melbourne
    533

    BR - contact the media - ACA or today tonight. DOE and cops will immediately take action. I hope that you're through all this though and that this is no longer a problem for your family. You sound like great parents to me.

  5. #5
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    Jul 2010
    Rural NSW near ACT
    413

    I am so so sad to hear what a tough time your kids are having in and out of school. Unfortunately schools have their hands tied so often and then by the time they should take action there is a slack deputy or head teacher who wasn't paying attention from the start and now finds it's totally out of control.
    The boss at the high school next door to where I work suspended some boys last year and this stopped them being able to play on the footy team. They decided to vandalize his car....unfortunately my car looks just like his and it got attacked!
    These kids were seen doing this and heard discussing it. I contacted police and basically it was "bad luck to me".
    I believe due to some stupid teachers abusing their power teachers have now had so much power removed that they can't or aren't game to take real action. Often also the parents of those horrible bully kids bully the school too!
    This is absolutely no excuse at all for the horrible behaviour of bullys that your children have been experiencing.
    I think the experiences you are having are the outcome of schools having less power. It is because parents won't believe teachers when they say "Your child is being a bully" and back up the school. Instead we stupidly blame the victims....it's getting worse not better......
    All I can say is stand up for your rights. See if you can find a social worker who is willing to go into the school and report the behaviour as it's happening.
    Above all protect your precious children

  6. #6
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    Feb 2009
    2,031

    Thanks for the love ladies. We have recently moved out of that area completely. It was the only option left to us, but I have been far more proactive with ensuring nothing gets out of hand now. They both have friends really close by now so that is pretty awesome.

    It is hard on them, I know. But in essence, the knife incident should not have been treated like a minor thing. It just showed that they were unwilling to assist in protecting my children. I simply could not leave that to chance.

  7. #7
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    Jan 2006
    8,369

    Just FYI - I know laws are different here, but in the UK you HAVE to talk to the police about weapons in schools. If you don't, the school needs a huge invetigation. The police cannot fob off weapons. There is also no way they should fob off acts of vandalism: I'd be asking to speak to people higher up and if that didn't work putting in a written complaint.