When the kids are with me they are my responsibility and XH has no input. When the kids are with XH they are his responsibility and I have no input.

I see my non-kid time as me-time. Time to recharge batteries. I can't control what goes on in his time even though he has been convicted of assaulting our DS2. I just have to pick up the pieces when they return. And I do.

What happens at his house stays at his house. What happens at my house stays at my house.