I'm in a very similar situation - my daughter is 9 weeks old today and her dad hasn't been around much either. I found out i was pregnant, the next day he broke up with me and tried 3 times to force me into termination. He ignored the situation and spread stories about me and the fact that the baby wasn't his until 8 weeks before i gave birth. He then tried to carry on like he did nothing and expected me to do the same. He saw her at the hospital and has only seen her twice since because i thought i'd better do the right thing and take her to visit him, not because he rang and asked me to. I have since found out that #1 he was saying that if i had a girl he wanted nothing to do with it, #2 he reckons he's too old (he's 43) to be a dad and #3 he expects to be involved with her but won't pay maintenance. I have gone to a solicitor to help me because he wouldn't sign the birth cert cause she has my surname so now my little girl has to have a DNA test. I know that my little girl deserves to know her dad but if i had my way she wouldn't because all i can see is her being hurt later on. If you ever want to chat, feel free to message me.