Do you regret it?

[paradise lost]

Depression and cannabis also played a large part in they way things were with my XP and i. Our problems ran deep and began long before DD was concieved and i stayed because i thought it'd be better to be together but within weeks of her birth i was ready to leave him.

I HATE marajuana. I have only had bad experiences with people who use it frequently and i have seen the same patterns (paranoia, judgmentalism, defensiveness and cruelty as episodes on a backdrop of depression, apathy and general lack of interest in anything) in 3 seperate people over 15 years now.

I do not regret leaving for one second. I am in a much healthier relationship now, DD is happy and loved by all 3 of her parents and i no longer feel like my insides have been hollowed out by living day to day with the crushing pessimism of someone who loved me but couldn't bear to see me happy.

Bx

[squidipa]

when i seperated from my ex husband father of two of my kids, its was blinkin aweful, because teh kids were so upset i spend hours and hours on the floor in the bathroom or under the shower crying, the kids foun it so hard and i thought about going back for the kids. my friends were great support. After many weeks and months of heavy emotional pain things looked up and i now have no regrets i think its worked out great and kids are happier too

[Lilly-Pilly]

Never...not once!

Its been over 5 years now and the thought of us being together in the past makes me cringe and feel all creepy

[Girl-23]

^ Amazing how things change huh? The person you were with (married, living, spare a child/ren etc) is the very person we can't stand today?

[BellyBelly]

I've been reading a great book, Parenting After Separation, which says the studies show that the damage for children comes from conflict before and after a separation moreso than the separation itself, so put it into perspective more for me. So the whole 'I'm doing it for the kids' argument doesn't really seem a sound one. I've had a friend even say to me that he and his sister were so miserable they wished their parents would have just divorced and saved them all the sanity... an unstable and unhappy home is worse than a happy one.

I know I am happier and healthier than I have ever been, I used to get sick all the time, even got glandular fever for the second time, as well as lots of other infections - never had a chest infection in my life but got a really bad one. I know I made the right decision and the kids are fine.