I've been reading a great book, Parenting After Separation, which says the studies show that the damage for children comes from conflict before and after a separation moreso than the separation itself, so put it into perspective more for me. So the whole 'I'm doing it for the kids' argument doesn't really seem a sound one. I've had a friend even say to me that he and his sister were so miserable they wished their parents would have just divorced and saved them all the sanity... an unstable and unhappy home is worse than a happy one.

I know I am happier and healthier than I have ever been, I used to get sick all the time, even got glandular fever for the second time, as well as lots of other infections - never had a chest infection in my life but got a really bad one. I know I made the right decision and the kids are fine.