How do you know when its time to get out...... I have 3 kids under 6 and am a stay at home mum, we fight over the smallest things, i couldnt exactly call it a fight as its one way.... I just take it and walk away for the sake of the kids, cause god forbid i argue back he loses it, screams, punches walls, swears and starts throwing things.... and this is something i dont want my kids to witness, especially the 6 year old.....It is like constantly walking on egg shells with him, if the kids are to loud he screams and sometimes takes it too far in disciplining the kids.... I sometimes feel like i cant protect my kids, cause if i intervene he will just keep on going......

He is physically home at night, doesnt gamble, drink do drugs etc, and feel in a sense i should be happy.... but he does nothing but play world of warcraft at night, if the kids try to rumble he gets angry, angry angry angry..... he doesnt help with homework, housework or nothing, I cant pass the baby to him for "me" time cause he'll just put the baby on the floor, hold the bottle in one hand and play with the other.... to him its a burden..... I cant talk to him at all..... I have talked to my mother in law about him.... and she understands what i am saying as apparently my father in law was similar.... according to her it gets better..... but with her "he" was never home as with my husband he's home but gets angry and aggressive.....

Deep down I feel like I should leave but dont know how...... I have no savings as not having a job..... My parents live overseas, im the only child and couldnt possibly move in with the inlaws..... (dont want to burden friends).... I tell my self if i win a little bit of money from lotto (keep dreaming) it will help get me started to find a place.... I dont want to tell my husband I want to leave cause i think he will tell me to get out straight away..... I couldnt stay at my home as i cant pay the mortgage and we dont have any equity to split...... How do you guys do it, knowing it is time to go, and then setting up a place.....

sorry that it doesnt all make sense, my mind is just going a hundred miles