Father Paying/Contributing Expenses During Pregnancy, and Legal Rights.

[Mummy_2_Tyrone]

I had all this with my DS sperm donor (sorry but he isnt man enough to be called a father).

this is just what I found to happen with my situation.

First no you cant make him pay for half of the baby stuff, i kept every reciept hoping this was the case, i guess you could try but it would be more expensive on your behalf than its worth, and if you happen to not win your in the reds even more.

Secondly, when the child is born you have to apply for cs, you will then get a letter stating you have been denied as there is no proof or parentage.. Once you get this letter you need to reply back ASAP saying you want a review of the case as he is the father.. you will then get ANOTHER letter staying your case has been reviewed but sorry once again you have no parentage proof.
Once you get this second letter you take it to legal aid or your solicitor to start the process to obtain a DNA.
If the father will get the DNA done it should be pretty fast and be over with, once you get the letter stating yes he is the father by dna testing you send a copy to csa and from there they will obtain cs on your behalf.
Although if he doesnt attend court dates like my ds's sperm donor and ignore dna testing appointments ect, it will take months..
after a few court cases ( that you will not have to attend) the judge will basically say "well this man has made no effort into proving he is not the father after the courts have given him so many chances, with that I declare him the father and responsible for paying child support". You will then be sent a letter stating this, send this letter to csa to start claim cs.
Even after being able to claim child support I still get Nothing, if he buys a car or a house in 10 yrs maybe they can take it off of him is what they said, or at tax time they will take his tax return, but as a man who works cash in hand i wont be getting a red penny.

Birth cert: only IF he signs the certificate willingly or obtains the DNA will he be put on the birth cert, even if he is declared the father by the courts i dont think you can put him on the birth cert ( but dont quote me).

Ok with centrelink, If you have no reason not to claim child support ( the baby is not the outcome of a rape, the father is not threatening or physically violent) then yes you will get a lower amount of money, if you are going to take him to court then you need to speak to a social worker and let them know so they can give you an exemtion for seeking child support until paternity is obtained, this way your payments will not be affected.. if you do have a reason you may ask for a life time exemtion, this way you never claim child support.

I hope this helps even the slightest.

If you have any questions you can message me anytime, like i said ive just been through it so i can let you know anything you need to know about what happened with my situation.
take care

[Mummy_2_Tyrone]

Also, In my own opionion, i think you should send photos to nanna.
Im sure she knows what her son is like, and if she is any kind of woman she will want to know her grandchild regardless of her opinion toward the mother of that child.
Half the time in these situations the granny doesnt even know she has a grandchild out there.
If she doesnt want anything to do with the baby atleast you done your bit, you have gave them the ball and it will be up to them what they do with it, atleast then at the end of the day you know you have done all you can

[Kailz]

Thanks everyone - I really appreciate the support.

Now I just need to put this all in some sort of order so my head can absorb it

[Lulu]

My poor sister felt the same hun, at this point there isn't much you can do about it and that makes it hard.
Lots of things may or may not happen before bubs is born, I know you want to feel prepared, I'd concentrate on having fab hair and a good pregnancy as long as you can before the boring bits have to be addressed. GL!

[sushee]

I think the difficult part will be establishing paternity. Once you're past that hurdle, at least you know CSA will help with the rest.

[Lulu]

ACtually I'll ask my sis what is going on with it all now. Her bub is 5 months old, and the "father" refused to sign the birth cert, even though he knows he is the dad. She hasn't mentioned paternity tests yet....

[Kitt3n]

hun, this might sound horrible, but, do you really want this "man" to be part of bubs life?

trust me, the lame amount of $$ you will get is nothing to be bothered to strive for.

You and bubs might just be better off if you have nothing to do with him.

I know its hard, but its something that i guess you should consider.

Be strong!!!

And sorry if my input is not wanted.