Oh gee! Situations like this are so hard. You're trying to do the right thing and give your daughter a relationship with her daddy, and he's just being a big turdhead!

Have you got any kind of formal agreement in place in regards to custody, and even child support? If you do, then I would probably suggest trying to stick to it. And if there is no agreement in place, then I would recommend going through the channels to make it all official. Once it starts becoming more official it might give him the kick in the pants he needs to realise that this is not all a game.

I have to admit that I'm not sure what happens if there is an agreement that he is not fulfilling (for example if he is meant to take her on certain nights, and he's not showing). We are always on the other side of the fence because we take my DSS's for a lot more nights than our current agreement states. Hopefully someone else might be able to help you with that though...

In any case, I definitely see why you are upset and frustrated and I think you have every reason to be. Good luck with everything!