I haven't been through it myself with my XH, he just wanted me and the kids gone, but I have been with my sister who has been through hell and back with her XH whose sole purpose in life is to make hers miserable.

I have to agree with everything they have said. Call CSA and tell them he is not paying. You get to backdate for a short period so don't let it lapse.

Get court orders. Write down every missed pick up, every early drop off. Do it all by the book and get it in writing. The courts can't do much to make him spend time with his daughter, but they can make sure you get her back.

And as horrible as this sounds, don't push. If he doesn't come, well then that is his loss and something that he has to live with when she wonders why she barely knows him. You do what you can for her, but don't let him ruin everything for her and you.

Finally, Never say anything bad about him in her presence. Its not because you can't trust her, but because she needs to trust you to have her best interests at heart.