I too take my hat off to those who go it alone. I am contantly amazed at the single mothers I know who are always so positive and happy dispite doing tough at times. It makes me realise I am so lucky and they in turn encourage me to be more positive. You are all awesome mummys and your children are indeed blessed!!
............ i have many friends whom are single parents & i seriously DO all i can as a friend to help them in anyway i can ... i tell them what an amazing job they do & praise them when i can see they need to also hear it, as they do tell me not many people feel as i do towards them & it means the world to them to just hear it even once in awhile.
i can't explain how much admiration i have for single Mums & Dad's too, to be both parents & do it ALL is just amazing.
Even though my Mum wasn't a single parent she might as well been as my Dad was never around, he would go to work then head straight to the pub to get drunk & spend most of his income & come home after midnight when we as kids/teens were in bed. I just never saw Dad hardly ever even though we lived in the same house. I watched my Mum often depressed having to do everything on her own, mowing lawns ... just everything & the financial struggle on a day to day basis was heartbreaking to watch her go through it. Mum would go without shoes to make sure us kids didn't suffer.
Oh gosh ive said this often!!! I was baby sitting a neighbours 1yr old had my DSD (4 at the time) and had a dog that wouldnt walk and had to manage us all into the car to the vet all by myself! Not fun!
Cmama I apologise if my thread came across as boastful and upset you. It certainly was not my intention. Like others have said, I've thought this often but had been apprehensive to post it lest it be perceived this way. But I truly, truly mean what I said. I don't know how you guys do it and I think you're amazing. I sometimes feel the same way when talking to my friend who's a single Mum. I find myself editing what I say about DH being a help as I have 'survivor guilt' - I feel bad that in many ways I have it so good when she's doing it tough. But she's very matter of fact about it. 'It is what it is' and she apart from needing an extra pair of arms attached, she says she wouldn't have it any other way!
Having grown up in a very dysfunctional family, I know it is certainly the case that a family can be much happier and more harmonious without the stress that can come from a problematic relationship. But happier or not, I can only imagine that it's really really exhausting trying to juggle everything sometimes.
I'm so glad others share my thoughts. Go single Mums - You ROCK!
Kat ... just wanted you to know there was a similar thread by member **Sunshine** back in July this year ... under - I take my hat off to all single parents !!
.... be rest assured Kat it was taken in a very positive light by all that posted
Thanks for starting this one, Santosha Many times I have wanted to start a similar thread myself but have worried that it may come across as being boastful or smug, when my intention is anything but... I think you and the other girls have put it very well!
Single mummies (and daddies)... you guys RULE. I struggle every day with my two kids and I am extremely fortunate to have my (sometimes not-so-wonderful) DH around to take the pressure off when things get too much for me. I cannot fathom the sleepless nights, the teething troubles, the toddler tantrums, the trips to the grocery stores, etc etc etc, without a LOT of help. You all are AMAZING women (and men) for being both mum and dad to your kids, for making huge sacrifices to ensure their safety and wellbeing, and dealing with the day-to-day grind with nobody to cry to at the end of a difficult day. I absolutely would take my hat off to you if I ever wore one, I look pretty stupid in hats. Big, BIG round of applause from me to you guys Keep up the great work!
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Many times I have wanted to start a similar thread myself but have worried that it may come across as being boastful or smug, when my intention is anything but... I think you and the other girls have put it very well!
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