When I first separated from my ExH, we wanted to give it a real go.

So we left each other alone, and just "dated" for a while. No talk of the big issues, just general fun stuff.

It became very clear to both of us that we were just friends, and thats all. So for us, the actual "we wont be getting back together" talk was mutual, and the friendship we found has kept us great friends, which is perfect for our kids.

Maybe you can try, "no talking of the issues" for a while, and see if you still have common ground first?? If you can get DH on board to try this way, it may work for you two.

Good luck, it can be so hard babe....