Kelly,

I am not sure if you mean telling him that its over or if you are asking as to how to deal with telling the kids?

When I left my ex it was not trial by seperation - I finally just got to the point where I told him that I wanted to be on my own - and that same day I left.

If you mean as to how to deal with him - simply tell him, sit down and say - its not working, I want to be on my own - I have had enough of this trial. He is a grown man, and you are no longer his emotional support person, he has to find out how to deal with it himself. Unfortunately it might hurt, but you have to be tough - you have to look after your health and wellbeing now- he can look after his.

If you mean the kids - it really depends how old they are......

Just remember that this is a bright beautiful ending to all of this - trust me