Ok, my ex works strange hours so instead of me setting times and if he can't make it, too bad so sad i let him come and see our daughter whenever he can... the thing is though he's just not doing it...
in the last 31 days he's spent 7hrs 22mins with her, and most of the visits were 5-20mins. in my opinion he's not spending enough time with her to form a father daughter bond. i just don't know what else i can do...
one day he said he wanted to start taking her for days, but i'm not ready for her to be away from me and even if i was i don't think i'd want him taking her, only because in her whole life he's only changed her bum like 4 times and every time she cries he passes her back to me like she's diseased (sp?) so i don't think he's be capable (sp?) of having her for a day...
I just don't know what to do anymore... am i expecting too much?
She is waay to little to be taken away overnight (imo). I know the visits are a bit infrequent but I spose its better than nothing . I think it may take a little longer to build up a relationship under these conditions, I'd press him to see her a little more (he has weekends doesnt he?).
If you can slowly build up the relationship with bubs, he will have more confidence and when its time for an overnight stay with dad, you will feel better about her going. There's NO HURRY on that one though....
There is no way i would be giving her away for the day or the night at this age!!!! You are def not being too demanding, guys tend to be a bit funny with such young babies, im sure as Lyla gets bigger and more interactive he will want to spend more time with her, hes prob just really nervous about her being so small and stuff. It is okay for you to feel that he isn't spending enough time with her, i would have concerns too if i were in your position. Try not to stress about him too much, your little girl will grow up knowing she has a loving father
NO you aren't. She is to little to be taken away from her mummy. Your ex should realise this. Maybe you could have him care for her at your house but you be in a different room, so you are there if they need you but he doesn't feel you are looking over his shoudler.
She's too young to be away from you with someone she hasn't yet built a relationship with. It's unfortunate about his hours but that's his problem, not yours. Lots of people have to juggle work and family, and you shouldn't have to turn your life upside down because of his choice of work!
thanks ladies, you pretty much confirmed what i already thought but every time i bring these things up with him he thinks i'm being unreasonable and just don't want him to be happy which isnt true, i just think Lyla should be a bigger part of his life than she is
and no he doesnt have weekends he's a manager for eagle boys so he works rather bizare hours
HELP... am i being too demanding...
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. I think it may take a little longer to build up a relationship under these conditions, I'd press him to see her a little more (he has weekends doesnt he?).
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