How do you do it? One day at a time. I am currently going through a very ugly seperation. It has taken me 12 months to get to the place where I know absolutely that I'm done. The damage that it has done to my children breaks my heart. But i know that I have done the right thing. and how do I cope - one day at a time. I have consciously made the choice that I no longer want the drama and chaos that having in my life was, and actively seek positive energy from all sorts of places. I have three kids. and I do know what you mean about feeling alone.... but right now, that is where you need to be. in being alone, you will learn to love yourself, forgive yourself, and become the woman you deserve to be. You can do this... one day at a time.