Thank you all so much for your advice. Its been such a hard two weeks that i was starting to wonder if it was easier having him around.
DS usually cosleeps at night. He has horrible nightmares, so climbs in with me around 1am. I cant sleep with the tv going. Lol tried that and ended up having some crazy dreams that seemed to be about what was on the tv
As for the friends, I dont have heaps to start with. But this past few weeks i have supposedly done something wrong and now one of the people i really needed support from wont even speak to me. Although a positive is its brought an old friend and i closer again.
I've been separated about 2 months and I understand how lonely it can be sometimes. It's not easy being at home by yourself, not having someone to talk to, or snuggle up with.
The first month was probably the worst. I racked up phone bills like you wouldn't believe talking to a lovely BB lady, and I spent many nights feeling completely lost.
Then I decided that I was not going to sit there like that forever. I started putting myself out there. I'd invite people I met to dinner, throw a barbeque and invite my (adult) kids and their friends. I got online and reconnected with friends I hadn't spoken to in years. I called people just for a chat, and while these 'approchaes' weren't always reciprocated, I now am starting to develop friendships with some nice people, people I never thought I'd be friends with.
You need a bit of a thick skin to start with. Talk to people you normally wouldn't talk to. Give of yourself. And once people know you're open to being friends, you'll start to meet people who help out with the loneliness.
I still have lonely days, but recently am finding that my life is filling up with things to do. I'm still a long ways away, but I'm getting there. You will too.
Hope your evenings are getting easier as time goes by x
I have read through all of the replies and they are so helpful for too, I feel like sometimes I keep DH around just to keep the lonliness at bay IYKWIM, so thanks, shall re read this thread on future lonely nights
Things are a bit easier. Still get really lonely in the evenings. NOT looking forward to my phone and internet bill. The kids are really hard right now. The older two are really starting to notice that daddy isnt here. We have talked to them about everything, but not sure how much they understand.
DS is still cosleeping...... I sleep so much better with him curled up next to me.
Although last night i made the stupid mistake of watching Greys anatomy before bed. Everytime i fell asleep i would "hear" someone in the house.
DS and I share a bed too, much snugglier less lonely.
I find that the perfect way to feel less lonely is to watch a fave DVD as I fall asleep, or right up til i can hardly keep my eyes open, then i jump into bed and nod off.
awww Hugs hunni~ You know I am here if you need me - Sorry if i haven't paid that much attention - I'm a screwloose these days :-P
The lonely nights - talk to me on msn - I can't sleep LOL - So am on until 12 :-)
No watchin scary movies before bed :P
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