How to help my single Mum friend of 3.5yr old twin DD's ....... Warning long story !!

[smiles4u]

i forgot to mention she doesn't drive which restricts her too.

I think you ladies have given me an idea ... how about DP & i offer to babysit her twin's on a Saturday during the day when there is public transport to get about (Sunday here is hopeless) that way she can chose to go on her own if she wanted ... and as Kel mentioned baby steps then the next time i could offer to babysit at night, OMG i don't know how i'm gonna offer a second time but i will do it if her twins kill me, LOL

Thank you so very much everyone for your help

[fionas]

Great idea! Sure she'd love just being able to tootle around the shops and have a coffee on her own (or with a friend). If you haven't been out for ages, it can sometimes be a bit daunting to think of where to go and who to go with.

[widdly]

you are so beautiful Lorelle and so i your DP

I think your idea of baby sitting on a Saturday is a wonderful one. I hope you can survive the twins okay. I used to sit for 2 year old twin boys of a single mum who were completely out of control animals, it would fray my nerves, but I did survive, my puppy almost didnt tho, they really were outta this planet (actually they still are animals at 10 years old, they never really stood a chance the poor boys, they have been kicked out of 2 schools already).

Hope your friend takes you up on the offer. I think you have a special way of making people feel at ease and comfortable with you so your friend will hopefully be happy with the offer

[kelebek]

if you try and put boundaries that exist at your house (within reason) they might respond as it is a different environment to what they are use to

We also live in a crappy rural area and no public transport (I also don't drive) so a saturday sound good cause you gotta know she was never going to meet Mr Perfect on the first night

[smiles4u]

if you try and put boundaries that exist at your house (within reason) they might respond as it is a different environment to what they are use to

We also live in a crappy rural area and no public transport (I also don't drive) so a saturday sound good cause you gotta know she was never going to meet Mr Perfect on the first night

.... i thought maybe what i could do is babysit her twins at her house, then that way they can destroy things in their own home ... and i could drive her where she wants to go and drop her off and pick her up if need be ... (and lucky me they are still in nappies, ah hope they hold out with a poo until she gets home as i have never changed a poo nappy on a 3.5year old let alone two of them )

[kelebek]

watching them in thier own home sounds like a plan (I am assuming DP will stay at home while you drop her off - or vice versa?!) maybe have a special book/game/toy/food bribe x2 hidden in your bag if they need thier nappies changed to help them stay distracted for long enough if the need arises.

would love to know how you go!

[smiles4u]

watching them in thier own home sounds like a plan (I am assuming DP will stay at home while you drop her off - or vice versa?!) maybe have a special book/game/toy/food bribe x2 hidden in your bag if they need thier nappies changed to help them stay distracted for long enough if the need arises.

would love to know how you go!

... thanks Kel, yeh thought DP & i could look after them together in your home as they seriously are out of control these kids, and yep will leave DP with the kids when i give her a lift or visa versa (don't wanna ask too much of the poor guy, still can't believe he suggested we MUST offer and soon !!) ... Don't know when it will be as our Saturdays are the worst days for us as that's when we as a family have heaps on but we will manage to squeeze it in no matter what for her sake ... Yeh will let you know when and how it goes, or better still if she takes us up on the offer