After 3 years of minimal contact with his family members, sperm donor has contacted me at this point in time i dont know why all i can presume is to see claire.

SD was very violent both towards me and DD he was very abusive emotionally and physically to the point DD1 is now 5 we left him a week after her 1st birthday and shes still very scared of confrontation even just raised voices.

Anyway i have seen a lawyer about going full custody but that would mean mediating with him first and i know he will harm me or her or do a runner with her, i feel my time in hiding from him is running out. We did think of moving interstate but now DH has this house which is the house of his dreams and i could get into serious trouble taking claire out of the stateto live.

I dont really know what the point of this post is, im in 2 minds i hate him and want him to disappear and keep ignoring him but on the other hand id love it to be all civil me get a break every now and then although i know this isnt possible as i doubt hes changed that much hes just got out of prison again but i dont want to look bad to the courts by not allowing her to see him kind of kidnapping her from him when there are no legal restrictions in place argh its so annoying!