alioops- oh gosh i know i am devostated about my phone, but it was the only way to stop myself going insane seriously
as for his "mantalk" i was hoping it would be like that. but his still not home now so i think its well and truely over! none of his mates have kids and there all still partying and unfortunatly ive lost my fiancee to beers, skanks and clubs
i would rather do it now then him come back and play his stupid silly games!
worst part i find out my wedding is off overr FB!
Diannescruffy- i know i am better off without him! im just going to do this for me i need to concerntrate on DS and my pregnancy, in the end i guess its only his loss, he will of lost more than i will have! right?
1sttimemumma- exactly what i said to him when he said this to me!! what the hell does he want me to do chuck oscar in my baby bjorn and hit up the clubs i guess ill never understand the way he is thinking but hopefully when he gets his chain of thoughts back he will realise and ill be to far gone to look back!
BellyBelly- Your right! me and DS do fine on our own on the weekend! its not like him not being home is a shock!
Alibaby- thanks for cuddles! truely appreciated atm!
Inertia- He wont want me talking to our mutural friends as then he will look bad!
my bestfriend i accually met thru him as she is dating his best mate! and he will of told people ie his mates the reason for our breakup is because i was to strick on him going out! because all his mates used to joke about "oh have you asked mum aka me if you can come out"
Ooh no no no.. How HE makes himself look is not your problem! Clearly they don't have kids to think thats a joke - and frankly anyone who thinks that its fine for him to just go getting drunk at a pub (premium prices I might add) every damn weekend when he has a child to look after is as shallow and vacuous as he is being.
He has chosen not to be your fiance anymore. You dont have to do or not do anything because of how he feels anymore. His feelings are no longer your concern. Just like yours aren't his. Remember - he is the one who "doesnt love you because you are boring". He didnt control you in your relationship, he has even less control now. Don't sit there alone because he might look bad. Reach out to whoever you need to.
thanks ladies! it really means alot, i dont have girlfriends who have kids so to them its just like a "normal" breakup!
Inertia- thankyou SO SO SO very much for your words your right why should i care when he doesnt! and no they dont have kids his friends that joke about me being like his mum.
you ladies are so amazing! you really have shown me not to back down and that i CAN do this and i WILL do this! my babies deserve to atleast have 1 mature parent.
his not sitting down sobbing over me so why give him that pleasure!
its not like i can call him haha right!
HUGE hugs.. DH and I are still together, but I know the feeling bout feeling like your a single parent in a relationship - I couldn't not post you some hugs Your a strong woman, you'll get thru it
So sorry your are going through this at the moment.
BB is a wonderful site and helps people in many ways to talk things through without being judged.
If he wants to come back lay down some rules. You are now a family so he will have to live as a family not as a single guy.
As for his family, especially his Mum, keep seeing her. She will be upset about what is happening. Your son needs to see his grandparents. Also don't let him dictate to you who you can or cannot see.
This will be a time when you will learn who your true friends are.
I am so sorry you are going through this Brooke. If I could come and take away your pain I would in a second. You are strong and you don't need his crap in your life.
I have fought the friends, beer, filthy skank and drug battle for many years and quite honestly it's not one I would fight again. You and your kids are better off without it in your life.
As others have said, he has done you a favour. You can now start living YOUR life instead of waiting for him to finish living his.
I am so sorry you're going through this. No-one at all deserves to be treated this way. You need to think about what's best for yourself, your son and unborn baby right now.
Your DP (or maybe XDP now) is still very young. Men take longer to mature than females, it's a known fact, and it sounds like he's still living like a teenager. You need to step up and be the adult here that your children need you to be.
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i guess ill never understand the way he is thinking but hopefully when he gets his chain of thoughts back he will realise and ill be to far gone to look back!
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