Thanks so much for ur reply Lulu
Im hoping to have a talk to him tomorow when he comes if he doesnt bring someone else with him(as hes been doing that lately bringing random ppl with him)
i had a talk to him a while back thats wen i spoke to him about having his visit on a monday at 11am at my place(which was the best day for him yadda yadda )

im starting to get the feeling like hes not to happy about this arrangement (well not so much him but his mum) but why should i arrange more time for him when he cant even make it on the times that i give him.

Im finding it difficult to now how to go about this with=out stirring up to much hopefully if i have a talk to him tomorow maby we can sort something out

how would i go about an arrangement whats fair etc at this age and in this situation
hes never been with her on his own as i cant trust him with her at this stage i feel more comftable having them see her at my place and i can just go away n get some house work done etc if his mums with him etc but dd still freaks out if i leave her and she cries as she doesnt kno him cuz he cant be consistent

sorry this is a long reply back i just really need some help