My husband is leaving me for another woman. (LONG)

[~clover~]

It sounds to me like he wants to have his cake & eat it too. Not good enough. If he's serious about the separation then he actually needs to make that decision. Don't allow him to dictate to you & treat you that way. You deserve respect & there is nothing respectful about this.

He's feeling guilty. So he should. But why should you suffer from his guilt? You deserve to be physically free from him, since he seems so emotionally free from you.

Maybe call legal aid. I assume they're the best option. You really do need legal advice, for your own peace of mind.

I've been in your shoes. I've felt what you're feeling. It took me too long to get legal advice, but I'm glad i did! Don't let him hold you back any longer x

[goddessofdawn]

It sounds to me like he wants to have his cake & eat it too.

You've hit the nail on the head! It's like he wants to pretend the separation isn't really happening, so he doesn't get to be the bad guy.

Is it fair though to stop him seeing DD every day if this is what he wants? As long as he leaves every night once she's been put to bed, he can see her every day.

Thank you all for your support and advice. It helps more than you could ever know. I'm going to ring Legal Aid tomorrow.

[HotI]

What do YOU want? He doesn't get to dictate all the arrangements. Your little girl will work it out soon enough. How will she feel if she thinks you have been hiding stuff from her?

What do you want for you?
What do you want for your kids?