Thanks for responding so quickly! Suddenly I don't feel so alone
Emma, two days - wow! The early days are really tough, I couldn't sleep and there was always so much going through my mind. A single mum I know told me that things DO get better - and guess what, they do! I have been meaning to have that long hot bath for about 4 weeks now. Maybe tonight is the night. And the lawns - besides when I was a kid (and on a ride-on) I have mown lawns ONCE in my life, plus today. I have already been out about 5 times just to have a look!
MrsMac - glad you have found a new guy - sounds like your family is doing great. I actually moved 2 streets away from XH as I wanted to stay close to the school (and since renting is difficult, I had to take what I could get - even if it is SOOO close). We are selling our house, though, so I don't know where XH will end up. At one point he said he was moving into town (I live about 1 hour west of Sydney) and that he wanted to find her a different school, although later he said he meant he MIGHT move closer to town and we MIGHT need to find her a different school. Games, games, games. Anyway - his family are almost all out here, so hopefully that will help keep him out this way, but there is no way I am changing her school - she has friends going there, and it is a good school - so if he moves far enough away that getting her to school is a problem then I will just seek full custody ("just" - hahaha not that easy, but she needs stability and I will do what it takes to give her that!)
hi Mel, welcome to BB. You sound like an incredibly strong woman and your girls are lucky to have such a wonderful role model. I hope that your visit at the family relationships sentre helps with the tension with your XDH. I know what its like to be the "bad guy" who left the perfect relationship for no good reason, its so hard not to feel guilty about it at times too. SOund like you have a great custody arrangement and its great that XDH is such a good capable father, I wouldn't feel as comfortable if my DH were to have 50% custody. Apprently nearly all fathers make the threat of taking the kids away from you, so try not to worry too much about it. Hope he doesn't cause any trouble with the girls and thier schooling if he decides to move away.
I am just going through the motions of seperating, hopefully will have my own place by the end of Jan. DH is doing an awesome job of making me feel guilty, he is still head over heels in love with me, but I want more out of life, I want the life he promised me and so far hasn't delivered. He def wants us to get back together again, but im not so sure and I dread the thought of breaking his heart. Oh well i guess we all just have to take things one day at a time
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