Laura I am so sorry you are going through this. With regard to your youngest, the courts recognise the importance of breastfeeding, and you do not have to agree to any arrangement which impacts on bfing. At the moment this clearly is impacting on bfing. I recommend you contact the ABA 24 hour help line. Tell them your situation and ask them about the package the Lactation Resource Centre has for this situation. You should be able to get an outcome where your baby is still able to bf at every feed at this age. GL hun.