Newly Single Mummy and ready to crrack

[pegasus]

I'm so sorry. I'm a single mum. I left my partner after a 2 year relationship. He had been hiding how he truly felt for such a long time. He never loved me. I wasn't going to spend the rest of my life with someone who doesn't love me.

I can't imagine how you feel. We are all here for you.

[Kitt3n]

Hun, if you havent cried for him yet i doubt he is worth crying over at all

when i left my ex dd was staying in his bed, so i didnt have the bed worries that you have, but he moved into a share house! which scared me no end.

eventually things will settle and you will feel "smoothed" out. It might take a month, it might take a year - but i am sure YOU AND THE GIRLS will be much better off in the long run.

Keep your strength up girl, but dont forget to let it all out if you need to.

there is light and happiness at the end of the tunnel, trust me xoxox

[Stars69]

oh gosh I am so sorry to read of your situation.

I would love to be able to help you. I don't honestly know how your coping with three children, running the house and coping with the breakup of your marriage.

Is there anything I could do to help?

[Beatrix]

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[Lulu]

At the very least buy some multivitamins and make sure you take them ok?

back later...

[Naomi08]

He has informed me he has gone and taken out a 5k loan to pay all his bills so as soon as that come through he will give me the money to pay half the credit cards and the bills that are in and when the gas and elec come in he will pay half of them too.

But still i worked out what he needed to pay including his recent court fine( haha dont have to pay for that anymore) he only has aroun 2300 in bills so god knows what he is going to do with the rest of the money.

I am thinking on contacting legal advice as in to what i can expect from him to have for the girls when they are there. I dont think its to much to ask that they have a bed to sleep on

Maz- your right i havent even really cried over this relationship, havent had time.

Beatrix,

[~clover~]

Hi. Just checking in to see how you are. What did the doc say??
Hope your feeling at least a bit better.
I'm not liking XP's sister much. What a cow.
Anyway. I really hope u are ok. Let me know.

[Beatrix]

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[~clover~]

Glad things are getting better. Even if you are all sick!

[Beatrix]

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[~clover~]

No thanks. I've already got them! Sorry

[Naomi08]

He has informed me he has gone and taken out a 5k loan to pay all his bills so as soon as that come through he will give me the money to pay half the credit cards and the bills that are in and when the gas and elec come in he will pay half of them too.

But still i worked out what he needed to pay including his recent court fine( haha dont have to pay for that anymore) he only has aroun 2300 in bills so god knows what he is going to do with the rest of the money.

I am thinking on contacting legal advice as in to what i can expect from him to have for the girls when they are there. I dont think its to much to ask that they have a bed to sleep on

Maz- your right i havent even really cried over this relationship, havent had time.

Beatrix,

I suggest that you get legal advice immediately!

Have you completed a financial settlement yet? If you have not and he takes out a loan, you could find out later that legally you are also responsible for any debt that is incurred until you are "recognised as financially seperated".

Scary I know!!

Legal aide gives free legal advice over the phone, and they should be able to point you in the right direction, including in the right direction regarding his obligations in relation to "suitable" accommodation for the children when they visit.

Good luck. I have been there and it has taken 4 years to get myself back on top of things, but you can do it and you will be stronger and wiser for the experience.

[ElleJay]

Oh Miss Beatrix - I'm so very sorry for what your going through. I've not been in your situation, but I just wanted to pass on my thoughts and prayers to you