Non Violent Toys...

[Phteven]

your XH is behaving like a child so I would look to child-wrangling techniques for a solution. Since you can't give him a time out or confiscate his toys I think that the best policy might be to ignore negative/attention seeking behaviour. If I pretend not to notice when my pre-schooler is being feral to get attention he usually stops after a while, maybe yours will too.

[Inanna]

Thanks beautiful Women...

I am sitting here weeping tears of frustration. It is so confusing for him he loves his Dad and of course trusts him. Daddy is saying:"mum is a tree hugging hippy she doesn't know what she's talking about"... Guns are good - otherwise the bad guys would get us all. Pluck Pluck Pluck Pluck...

I know I can't let on it's bugging me but it was so hard not to blast his socks off...

Kick in the nether regions would feel oh oh oh so sweet right now... However, I then remind myself to harm no one... But Man - this is a test of my strength..

Bron you are right. Praise and ignore.... It's just my baby Boy we are talking about and I wannna yell loudly!!!!!

[Lulu]

You can still confirm to your boy that yes you ARE a tree-hugging hippy, but it doesn't mean you don't know anything.

Reminds me of my poor sds - he was about 8 when he seemed upset about something his mum said. "mum says you are a witch" - Really? I say......"well you know that its true though don't you?" Big wide eyes - "well don't I fix you when you aren't well, didn't we make those nightmares go away, didn't I teach you how to dream?" Nods. So mummy was right, I've got all sorts of tricks up my sleeve don't I? Nods. "Now pass me that broomstick please, I have to get to the shops" sds cracks up and skips away...

NOW - if ds ends up liking the hitting target side of things (which I am sure is the only thing he might get out of it), you can always introduce him to Archery - which is purely about skill and imho a rather "noble" type of sport....

[Inanna]

Thanks Lulu...

I've got the witch thing too... *sigh*... I have said very similar to what you have - so I hear you there. I did affirm the hippy thing and of course DS meditates before bed every night and surrounds himself in white light when he is scared. His favourite collection are his crystals..

It really is about me dealing with the anger at his way of trying to get at me... I will deal...

[Lulu]

If you expect it, it won't hurt so much. On some level you must have known it was going to play out like this though since you have known him so long

[Inanna]

I don't expect it though. I really didn't think he would sell his soul so easily... However, there was a part of me that isn't surpised also...

[AngelPunks]

go outside, somewhere where you won't be disturbed and SCREAM REALLY LOUD!!! just let all the frustrations out.

I believe in the harm none as well but with a slight difference - my ethos is "harm no innocents".

Hugs babe & cya on Friday night ... will give you a HUGE hug when I see you!

[Tinks]

My inlaws bought DS toy guns, when I voiced my concern i was told....'If they don't play with toy guns as kids they will turn out to be murderers'

I don't like them and have never allowed them in my house.