Not sure if "happiness" is quite the thing to strive for ( I know that must sound weird ) it's more a sense of "rightness". All couples experience times of challenge... all couples disagree. I don't expect my DH to make me happy... that's something i must create within me... but a partner should make you feel comfortable most of the time... like when you are with him you feel understood and respected. Never allow humiliation, fear, and isolation into your relationships... there's an old saying "Fear and Love will never live in the same house". Happiness is a symptom of a good relationship... not the primary objective.
Let me tell you about an urban myth us girls used to giggle about - it's called the Engagement Ring On Layby...
Over the years me and my posse noticed that if we ended up breaking up with a guy who strung us along or wouldn't commit - as soon as we moved on, looked happier, or didn't want to go back, the good old But I Had an Engagement Ring On Layby for You line would come out.
Like Beyonce says - if you liked it then you should have put a ring on it - come on now girls IF YOU LIKED IT THEN YOU SHOULD HAVE PUT A RING ON IT.....oh oh oh, oh oh oh - yep come on wiggle your butts oh oh oh, oh oh oh.....
In the most memorable time my bestie said - WHERE? WHAT SHOP? - no answer...
So it's sort of the same thing really isn't it? He didn't think you would do better than him, or even get a life. Said it once, I'll say it again - ARROGANT!
What more is there to discuss with your ex? Bloody nothing. Don't bother.
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