Was this the right thing to do???

[Ilithyia]

Honestly, no - it wasn't the right thing to do.

The further you distance yourself from him - the better. Involving yourself in his personal life is only going to cause you anguish.

If I was in your situation, the less I knew about what rot he was getting to, the more you can move on with your own life.

Sorry if it seems harsh, but in my experiences, the less you involve yourself in their lives, the better.

Big hugs hun!
xx

[BlackCat]

hmmmm to me, looking wasn't the wisest thing to do in the first place. But I am of the opinion that yeah, maybe it was the right thing to do to tell your friend. You didnt interfere directly with him or the girlfriend, you voiced your concern to a mutual third party to do with what she thought appropriate. Unless he is seeking treatment for his abusive behaviour then he wont suddenly stop and to me it is akin to knowing that someone is abusing a child and doing nothing about it.

So to me, no you shouldnt have looked for your own personal well being, but you acted appropriately according to the information you have. That is JMHO. Now stop looking

[foreva*your*mummy]

I probable would have done the same thing as you but I do agree with sara, the further you stay away the more you can get on with your life and making you happy.
Its done now and there is nothing you can do but stay away from all his drama. Hopefully she will have family around her to help her is she needs it.