I don't have a story to share but I just wanted to say that you can do it!
By the sounds you are a bit torn...you want your ex around, but not...at the same time. Maybe you can come to some sort of peace within yourself as to what you really want....and decide what your DS (which stands for Dear Son) will need once he's here and you've established your new life with a baby as a single parent.
Yes I am torn but how much more clearer are the words "My family and I want nothing to do with you until the baby is born and then you can be a problem for the next 18 years" and answering phone calls with "What do you want?" - These comments bring tears to my eyes because really I haven't been a bad person but I have been trying to reconile the relationship or at least maintain an amicable relationship cause I was under the impression that he wanted to be there for me emotionally but when it is me contacting him and nothing from him then it is clear and I need to accept it and move on quickly because XP does not want me cause he prefers not to be a relationship more or less and to tell you the truth I was very unhappy with him and felt unsupported and frustrated with him most of the time but I have mother's guilt and want to create a "happy little family" for DS. So sadly, I have removed his details for my file that is held by OBU, changed appointment with the midwife so I can attend with my mother and removed him from ante-natal classes so I can attend with my mother so I will surround myself with support instead of someone who is just so mean spirited. You know I sent pics of the 4d scan to him and his response was "Baby is sorta ugly, must be my boy" and asked to come and watch the 4d scan with me when he had a moment but no, he demands a copy (mind you my mother paid the 4d scan so this is her property and I am not going to give him our only copy and tells me to **** off - I sat there texting him trying to tell him how important and needed he is and how I want to be able to have the opportunity to be friends with him but no response to calls, texts etc.). I don't know, I am so mixed up about his actions. . . Do they really say that he wants nothing to do with me and baby until he is born? Or I have done something but being confused and telling him that I need him and then I don't need him to make him just want to not be involved? I think only time will tell, I really don't think he wants anything to do from me and what he tells me "wanting nothing to do with me" is the truth and not said in the midst of an argument. . . Need to stop making excuses for him, exclude him from my life because whenever there is contact it is me that is distressed until he makes an effort that I find appropriate (still holding onto hope) and start living my life as a single parent focusing on DS and looking at the positive especially my amazing family and the opportunity to make new friends and rediscover myself as a person and create a new identity as MUMMY
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