wow thanks so much

so much to answer becauase parts of each ones story is so relevant

thank you so so so much. everything you all said was relevant and helpful thank you.

rifts are so painful and the most painful is you cant go around talking about it even. you can say things like ' my partner just got diagnosed with ... so i'm stressed , but you cant easily say my children are really acting carzy at present or my family isnt getting on at present"

rifts are painful. i wish they could just talk sort things and get on

but at present i'm going to have to have the pain of the rift as well as time to focus on other areas of my life which is much needed after 3 decades devoted to children and almsot nothing for other areas of my life.