Message for MIS_TREE , ... I have one thing to say " Seth is very lucky to have you as his Mother ... as for his Dad how cruel as his actions in the end effect his very own son ... what an immature act on his behalf ... You keep on doing the beautiful job that you DO in being Seth's Mother "
(hope for your sake you don't have to deal with your EX's family much with their behavior towards you ... takes a stronger person to be KIND & a weak person to be the opposite)
Mis_tree i just wish to warn you to be very carefull whist you don't have the court orders. Your ex can simply not return your son when he takes him for visitations and hold him till the court say's other wise. He is 50% his and 50% yours in the eye's of the law. I have been through this, i don't wish to scare you only inform you. It's great you give him time with your son that will go in your favour but be sure he is not likely to keep him. Also have it noted that you wish for your son not to be given a bottle of any sort babies get nipple taet confusion and refuse the breast as it is easier for them to get the milk out of the bottle. This is something my ex has threatened me with so he will get our newborn sooner for longer periods. If he does not manage to get the custody from birth. Which he won't (fingers and toes crossed ) I suggest that you only allow supervised visits till you do have the court oders and they are signed by the magistrate.
Don't worry about DOCS at all if you sought help for your problems then that shows you have done everything you can in the best interest of your child lots of mothers go throught PND and they don't loose there children. As for what he said or says to you it is so important to write it all down in a diary even if you don't remember the dates the courts will look at all of that.
As for him taking things from you and money from your accout that is such a low act mine did the same but again write it down. Everything thing these days is for THE BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD and he is oviously not thinking of his son, only himself and how to hurt you. If you have it all written down the courts will use this against him.
We should all be aware that there are multiple issues that the law looks at, each case is different.
97% of cases are settled before final hearing/trial, so most people can work it out for themselves. However some do need a little help from solicitors, barristers and Family Report writers to sort out what is best for EACH PARTICULAR child at THIS PARTICULAR time.
Just be aware that each case is different - what has worked for you and your XH/XP might not work for others. Sure, it's great to share advice, but please make sure you get INDEPENDENT LEGAL ADVICE pertaining to your own situation.
How do I know this? I'm a single Mum to my two boys, my XH has supervised time with them. I work for myself and I end up dealing with the 3% of matters that don't settle. I'm a barrister.
Hey girls i said i would update you after i had seen my solicitor. She informed me that i should not mediate with this man until our baby is born and there is something to mediate over. She read the emails he had sent to me and took them as threats aswell. She will eat him alive when we do mediate so at the moment he is the least of my worries.
Just wondering if any of you have some advice on talking to children about visitation. My boys are 2 and 4 they stay with their dad 4 nights in a row every fortnight. They call me on the sunday night. The eldest son says "i lost mummy" and when i pick him up he says "i not lost anymore you save me". Then with my 2 yr old he asks me out right saying "home come home now" and again when i pick him up he says "oh yes home now" It rips at my heart strings when i have to tell them not to much longer mummy will be there to get you tuesday morning when you wake up but hey don't understand. How can i make the situation better for them what can i say to make them feel better about being with their dad.
I talk to them and tell them daddy loves you just as much as mummy and he wants to spend time with you too. But it just don't seem to matter to them. Help i want to stop hurting my kids.
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