Hi Rita

WOW! And congratulations.

I think just tell him what you've told us - that you're surprised, a little scared and you haven't had too much time to process it yet but you thought he should be the first to know.

Just bear in mind that he will need some time for it to sink in too so his first reaction may not be his final reaction.

Then I think write a list of all your fears and have a long think about what you can do to combat each of those, one by one. If it means talking to a counsellor, do that.

If you have financial worries, think about what you CAN do rather than what you can't and get as much information that you can from various sources which may include lawyers (in the case of child support from the father if you want to go down that path), Centrelink etc. etc.

And please don't think that having fears/doubts/worries are confined to single parents. I think a lot of women have those same fears when they find out they're pregnant, whether it was planned or not! I know that I did!

Finally, don't hide yourself away and isolate yourself BUT do choose someone to tell who will be thrilled and supportive.

Best of luck and let us know how you go.