i agree, you made an alternate time, he mucked up TWICE in a row. you HAVE been patient. i wouldn't make a 3rd time this week either.

If she's important to him, he will make it on time.

Put your DD first. He should be willing to see her/pick her up to suit her nap times, not his times.

It must really get you down, to be trying to live your own life, but have to keep putting your life in limbo, each access visit. sounds really tough.

good on you for having a good day, in spite of his messing you about.