They were talking about this on the radio yesterday which made me think about it. I think for me it owuld depend on 'why' we split. If it was because of cheating them it would have been hocked off, if it was just because we grew apart I would keep them for my children as the would have once represented a happy time.
My mum lost hers!! She was keeping it for me and hid the diamond ring somewhere "safe" and forgot where - she has moved house since then so it's gone forever So I don't advise doing that!
When xDH and I split and after DP and I got together, DP and I sold our rings and put the money into something for our new house together.
You could sell them and spend the money on something you'll value. Whether that's shoes, wine, something for the kids or a divorce party - there's lots of options.
You could bury them, throw them in the ocean or something similar in a kind of removing him from your life ritual. It may be the rings could represent what went wrong, such as being controlled, accepting X kind of behaviour or whatever. By removing them, you can say that negative behaviour is going with them.
I know my DH hocked his not long before we met. Mum gave me her engagement ring, but I've never felt comfortable wearing it as, for me, it's a symbol of things going wrong.
I offered to give mine back but he didn't want them so I melted them down and had them combined to make a dress ring...........though it's now sitting in a drawer somewhere in the house.
Is it nasty to say that sometimes I wish I would lose it so I could use the insurance money to buy something I really want and like?
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So I don't advise doing that!
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