My XH did this a lot with me. So I gave him notice that unless he tells me the exact time he's going to be there, at least 24 hours in advance, I assume he's not going to be there and make other plans.
If he is late for his pick-up time by more than an hour, I leave.
I too didn't want to 'stir the pot' but I soon realised that he was using his visitation time to jerk me around. I was nice as pie about it, I really was, but the msg got through - I wasn't going to be waiting around while he came and went as he pleased.
The initial discussion was a bit tough, but it's been years now and he hasn't fooled around for a long time when it comes to picking up/dropping off on time, because he knows I won't put everything on hold for him. And as a result, XH and I have a better relationship for it.
Hi hon I agree with Ammaki, they should work around you, it sounds like you don't get much time with your partner so I'd make you plans for your life and your x and his mother will need to organise things in advance with you, they can't expect that you don't have a life and will drop everything at the drop of a hat to cater for them.
this is really a hard one, but the thing is if he doesn't want to visit DD, you can't make hime. men, whats wrong with them sometimes?! i like sushees idea, you can still be nice about it and some people do use this time to just stuff up XP's days. i know as i have a good friend who is just going thru a separation.
i am sending you a hug and some good luck.
BTW, vent away, that will at least make you feel a bit better. good luck to you.
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I agree with Ammaki, they should work around you, it sounds like you don't get much time with your partner so I'd make you plans for your life and your x and his mother will need to organise things in advance with you, they can't expect that you don't have a life and will drop everything at the drop of a hat to cater for them.
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