oh huni i know just how you feel. My ex is exactly just like that even to the point of the child service's except he will call them when i dont do or agree with something he wants.

The best thing i found was.....and it may sound scary....but i called them...child services and i explained the whole thing to them and asked for their help in helping my DS. They will get him in right away to talk to someone and they will look into why he is so scared and anxious around his dad.

Im sorry he is like that after all that time im hoping my ex will stop soon its been a few years but it still has not stopped. But you are doing the right thing you have nothing to be worried about. Child service's wont just take your child they need hard proof something is a miss.They would contact daycares schools ect. *hugs*