OK I think I've managed to join. I have a dilemma. Been TTC for almost 2 years now - had a big operation 6 months ago to clean up all the mess (endometriosis) & 3 months later, I conceived. However, it was soon discovered at an early ultrasound that the foetus had not grown. I did not miscarry naturally & at 9 weeks, had a D & C, sadly.
So they tell me there is varying advice on when to TTC again - some say wait until your first "normal" period after D & C; some say wait for 3 cycles before going again. I'm 37 - no time to wait - so we tried again after my first period, which was very light.
Now HERE is the dilemma.
Today is Day 29 of my cycle - I am officially 1 day late for AF. Today I've had light cramping, comes & goes, completely tolerable. Not a spot of blood. Should I test? When should I test? I am TERRIFIED of testing & getting a negative. I am holding off, thinking wait it out, give it another day, then another.........I would rather discover blood than test & get a negative.
Could really use some advice/opinions/support if there's anybody out there. I really wish this thing was instant - maybe it is & I haven't figured it out yet.
I would suggest waiting a week after signs like that as it could be implantation cramping. After this happens it might take as long as a week for the hormones to show up on a HPT.
Yes after posting, I did some more research & discovered that the post-ovu phase of the cycle is pretty much ALWAYS 14 days. Normally I have a textbook cycle - 28 days, ovu on Day 14; however, having had only 1 period since the D & C, my temp chart was very up & down & my herbalist seems to think I ovulated on Day 17. We were active on Day 16.
So with that in mind, it appears AF could arrive in the next day or two so Im going to wait it out.
I see my herbalist again in 4 days for acupuncture & I will have to test that morning so she can administer the correct herbs & treatment.
I appreciate your considered response - especially since I'm keeping TTC top secret now - everyone in my life new before so it was especially painful having to announce the miscarriage.
hi kayandjay, welcome to bellybelly. I hope you find all the help and support you need here. I know i did. I joined after my missed miscarriage (same as yours) in 2007, just wanted to let you know that i know of people who didnt wait at all and started trying straightaway,some with luck too!
also after my mc AF was all over the place, in regards to cycle length anyway, 21-38 days, used to be spot on 28.
anyway, have you checked out the ttc after mc threads? the girls in there are all going through the same thing, waiting, testing etc. you may find some more support and even make some friends.
Good luck, I hope you get your BFP soon. xx
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What should i do?
i,ll give and hope all gets better
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