help me find acceptance of body love

[*charmalea*]

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I am looking for affirmations and the like to help me accept my body .

for years now its been the forefront of my existance , unhealthily i think about it all the time .

i never look my self in the eye and see anything nice , i feel that everyone is waay more attractive no matter their size of shape .

I need to feel ok and accept that is fine to put on a few hundered grams , and that my body looks great no matter what weight it is .

I need to stop feeling like i have to tell my self im ugly , fat or small boobs or saddle bags or what ever .

on paper i have it fine , im 167cm , 59 kgs no stretch marks from 2 pregnancies , only a few dimples in my thighs and apart from the dimples cellutlie is non existant to the nakes eye . i have oilve skin , bright blue eyes size 10 ... all in all its not bad .


BUT i know i posses those qualities , so why am i not happy .. I need to move on from the body bashing and grow into a woman who is accepting of herself , im accepting and loving of everyone else flaws and all ( if you want to call them a flaw - if were all differnt than do we even have flaws ??? )

So mantra , meditations or affirmations are needed to bring me to a place where i can say " yeah i am woman , i own my body , it its beautiful"

i need help with this as i could never sat it on my own ....

i need to be mature and see clearly so it doesnt affect my life .

[Visitor7]

This is such a hard thing to do in life, isn't it. For me, the change came when I won a wardrobe makeover and I had a stylist take me shopping for new clothes. She knew what would suit me. After the shopping spree, I realised I DO have a nice body. Yes, I have a little bit of weight on, but I have curves, I have boobs, and I AM beautiful! When I'm feeling down about my body, I put on something that will show off my best assets, and it always works. Yes, the big bum will still be there, but that's ok.
It's so important to love yourself, but it's hard to actually do. But you CAN do this!

[C~Q]

Huge hugs hunny. It's so hard isn't it I honestly think it is all about your mental attitude, not about your body at all. When you're feeling self confident as a whole then you feel happy with yourself. I know when i'm feeling like crap, when somebody beats me to something or I ffeel i've let myself or others down then I can look at myself - my hips, my arse with disgust. But when i'm feeling on top of the world then I can look in the mirror and be really happy with myself!

So I guess you need to think about what makes you happy as a whole? What do you do that makes you have a huge smile on your face? Find out what that is and then try and find a way to keep that feeling of happiness and confidence all the time.

And BTW i've met you and you're bloody gorgeous (and that was how long after giving birth???) AND you forgot to mention your beautiful hair...after the Chrissy meet up last year I actually took to a curling wand trying to recreate your look and failed miserably lol!

[smiles4u]

Charm ... i too was going to mention Jodi's very pretty hair

... Charm, i know this might be out of reach with your being busy with kids & all but could you do a Modeling & Finishing course

I did one when i was 30 & it was the best gift i could have give myself

... i was a size 14, curly blonde shoulder length hair, hazel eyes, 14D bust, 165cm tall and don't forget 30 years of age ... and i GOT into a modeling agency & actually got work ... who would have known

I learned very quickly that even the skinnest girl's can be shy to strip down to their underwear ... then i just became so aware that alot of woman feel the same way so i thought what the heck so when ever i did a casting or job and i would proudly strip down to my undies & bra ...and i would think i aint perfect BUT i have some good ' bits' of me and i also learned to carry my head high cause at the end of the day i have only one ME to love

(CQueen ... massive apologies again for my silly mix-up ... i'm off now to kick myself in the butt)

[*charmalea*]

CQ - thanks , you made me laugh when you told about your hair msl:

Jodi- your very lucky to have won that , that would be my dream prize . i looked into it at westfield and it was about $100 an hour ... plus clothes ... its a big investment . i have considered the trinny and susannah books but its better if someone shows you IRL .... i find it really hard to feel fab inclothes as i dont know what suits me , which makes me loathe myslef even more

Smiles ... that sounds cool , id love to do a deportment class ... just time and motivation i guess ,and im scared i'll fail ... im not like a ladette ... im super girly but no confidence ... what company was it ?

[smiles4u]

... Charm, i would recommend going with the school with the best reputation that you can find

I did mine about 13years ago & at the time Suzan Johnston in Melb (cnr Elizabeth & Flinders St's ... opp Flinders St train stn) was by far the school with the best reputation of it time (many, many well known models of those times & earlier came out of this school). But depending what state you are in, say if you are in Melb i'm not sure if the school still stands with it's reputation or what other schools are about now (??)

Our class from what i remember had mostly girl's from 19 to about 23 ... then there was me at 30, another woman at 35 & ..... wait for it another woman at 60 (HOW FANTASTIC), and she went on to do TV commercials

Charm, if it's of any help i went through depression only months before i started this course (without them knowing of course) and it gave me back my self-esteem & confidence i had lost during that awful time ... so, i say GO FOR IT

[*charmalea*]

i looked into June dally watkins , shes in brissie a short course is $850

and you have to invite family for a show of how youve transformed .... now that scares me .. i would be too embarrassed , id rather do the course and then go home , it would be like the home ec dinner i had to do in school ... major disaster !!