sigh what do they want now??????

[cmama]

Hi just a questions ladies
I am a single mum with a 18 month old.
got a letter from centrelink asking me to come for an appointment to assess whether i am still eligable for parenting payment
they have asked me to bring in i.d.
bank statements if i have utlilties accounts ect
i dont recieve any child support
because my ex is a sadist ahole.
i have asked a few ppl what they want
different replies
some say they want her fathers name and will cancel my payments if i refuse to give it
some say to check whether i am living with a man, which i am not
i haven't done anything wrong so why do they want to see me
it's ****ing me off!

[rhyb]

From what I understand centrelink cant cancel your PPS if you have no father named on the birth certificate

[Lulu]

It's a routine check, nothing to worry about. They do them randomly and periodically.

xoxoxo

[cmama]

hiya
thanks so much for the replies
just didnt understand what they want cause i havent done anything wrong
i hate centrelink!
i'm not going to apply for childsupport
my ex wants nothing to do with her
and has made it perfectly clear what he will do if he is made to take responsibilty for a child he does not want
im not gonna wake the sleeping dragon and jump everytime there is a knock on my door.
i will never give his name to centrelink as i feel i have to protect my daughter from him.

[C~Q]

Sounds like a crap situation but if his name is on the BC then if you don't apply for CS you won't get much from CL. If he's not i'm not sure...

[Lulu]

No one said you did anything wrong, like I said they do them randomly and periodically. It's not personal and it's not just those on Parenting Payment.

If you don't want to give your childs name, it's up to you but your payment might be reduced for that reason.

Hey, I know it's a bit invasive but if you are receiving payments you have to get used to the fact they will check your (and everyones) eligibility from time to time.

xoxoxo

[murraysmum]

ok before u jump the gun talk to someone at centerlink u have a review so they can change everything u want to change at once

i neevr recvied child support and csa is in conjunction with centerlink it will all work out dont stress

[Indadhanu]

If he's not on the BC who need to see the social worker who will ask for a stat dec to say you don't know who the father is. Unfortunately if you know his name, or he's on the BC and you DN'T claim CS, they'll usually not pay you any more than the the minimum amount.

You'd probably have gone through all this anyway, seeing as your DD is 18 months old. We went through it before we were approved for parenting payment just after Jazz was born (last year, when we were still seen as single). They tend to be on top of things like overpayment when you're not eligible etc.

[cmama]

hi girls
thanks so much for your replies
im sorry if i came across as grouchy
i didnt mean to
just so exhausted
feeling bit low and alone
left her father to get away from violence to protect her
stayed with my mother for extra supprt because i had gone back to full time study
she let my brother move in
who is exactly like our dad,, seriously messed up..and also violent
he broke two of ribs with a knife...been in a refuge for the last 3 months.
no contact with my mother anymore as she still is allowing my bro to stay there and use and abuse her and doesnt really seem to get why i am upset at her.
she was the only family i had...
just feel so fed up.. like i seriously cant take anymore.
guess thats why i am overreacting to this centrelink appointment
cause i feel like im gonna break from anything more put on me.
just want to get on and have a happy life// but it feels like the hardest thing in the world to do
im sorry girls
thanks again for listening to me rant and rave xx

[briggsy's girl]

it would be a periodical review - everyone on centrelink payments gets them - it's not an insinuation that you've done anything wrong - it's simply a routince check to make sure everything (value of your posserssions, bank acct details etc are all up to date. if yo u are living at a refuge, you likly wont have utilities bills so get a letter from the people running nit toconfirm that you are living ther

with regard to ftb/child support. if your dd's dads is violent, you may receive an exemption via the social nwork yeam, so that not claiming cs doesnt impact your payments. this has probably been doone already but it may not have been so check at appt, you may be able to get that done so that he and his potential to pay (een if he refuses) dont impact you

[Yael]

You apply through Centrelink, to see a social worker (you can call and request this first), and apply for an exemption to claim child support because of the risk of domestic violence.

If you do this your FTB won't be affected by you not claiming child suport.