20 week ultrasound - sonographer slips out the sex!

[kj1980]

I had my 20 wk u/s and we told the sonographer we didn't want to find out the sex of the bub.

He then made reference to the baby being a 'he' and when we looked at him he said "I don't know the sex but often refer to the babies as being 'he's".

Has anyone had the sonographer slip up on the sex before? We are happy for either as long as the little one is healthy - but we really wanted it to be a surprise so now I think my hubby is really excited thinking it might be a little man....

Would be interested to see if this has happened to others and then you've actually delivered the opposite sex?

[skybie]

at ny 12 week scan the sonographer reffered to the baby as she all time, obviously he couldnt tell at that point....he ended up being right though lol

[~clover~]

I've never had that, but imagine your suprise if that is what he does & you end up having a girl..!
I guess its either find out for sure, or don't get your hopes up either way. Stick with the don't know. When working with this stuff it could just be a habit instead of saying 'it' or 'the baby'. It could just be easier for him

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

I used to refer to Liebling as "he" all the time in utero - just because it's the correct gender neuter pronoun. I prefered "him" to "it" anyway. Every now and then I'd throw a "she" into the mix because people thought I knew I was having a boy.

Unless the sentence was "well, he's certainly not got to worry in the changing room" or something along those lines I wouldn't take anything by it.

[maz]

I have heard that quiet a bit actually.

When we had V we found out her sex adn the sonographer kept saying he and apologising because she said its just something that she does no matter what. Yep V came out a girl

BUT

We were told at 4 u/s that M was a girl (we had asked) and it wasnt until an emergency u/s at 37 weeks that we actually found out that he was a boy. That was very shocking!

[Trillian]

I had that happen with my first pg. I had a scan at 27wks because he'd not moved for nearly 2 days and the Dr kept saying 'here is his arm/leg' etc and at the time I wondered if he said that because that's what he really was or if it was just a better alternative to saying 'it'. I always knew that he was a boy anyway and clung to that as some sort of sign LOL

[westy]

I have also had a sonographer refer to bubs at an early ultrasound as being a boy, but like a previous poster said they wouldnt have been able to tell so early into the pregnancy ....but she was correct in referring to bubs as a boy!

[Visitor7]

It's probably just a habit for the sonographer, instead of calling bub 'it'. To find out the gender, the sonographer has to actually look at that part of the body. It's not part of their routine checking, unless parents ask for it.

[Santosha]

I'm with the others... our sonographer said 'he' a couple of times. I totally missed it, but DH noticed and was left convinced we were having a boy. However, she is most undeniably a girl!

[AliBaby]

Different example but I do the same thing when I am refering to other peoples dogs. I have always had boy dogs so automatically say "oh he's so gorgeous" when I dont even know if its a boy or girl. Just comes out.

I would just take it as it could be either

[Ginger]

Yep we had the same thing happen with ds1. the sonographer said 'he' then kind of went 'eerrr, arrrr, ummmm' and then paused....very obvious stuff up.
and yes...'he' is a boy.

[Lisa]

Most of the ultrasound I have had, the technician has refered to them as either him or her. I have also found when discussing things about the baby, some midwives and Ob's have refered to the baby as he or her too.

[Tanya]

Happend to us at DD#2's u/s, well the sonographer didn't slip, but kept referring to bub as 'he'. We ended up calling him after to see if he did see the gender, but he said the same as your sonographer...

[CinderToriella]

yeah at my scan the lady said 'he' and we thought it was a boy and then when we asked what the sex was she looked and sais it was a girl

[Ellee05]

My GP here always refers to babies as he and DH also got a little excited for a few days because she was saying he. But yep our bubba was a girl.

[Fleur]

I think it's probably more respectful to refer to your baby as 'he' or 'she' rather than 'it' IYKWIM? So probably a work habit

[Mildez]

With DD2 the sonographer pointed out there is "her" stomach. I didn't want to say anything out of fear it would be confirmed as we wanted a surprise so I didn't say anything. DH didn't think he was referring to bubz been a girl just saying that instead of it but she came out a DD and from that moment I had a strong feeling I was having a girl. My Aunt also was told she was having a boy when she didn't want to know with her first.
As a midwife I always refer to the bub inutero as a he or a she especially in labour when I don't know but I make sure to call it he and then she a few times so I don't favour one or the other IYKWIM. Much nicer to say he or she then it if you don't know.

[*Ash*]

With my 2nd pregnancy, the sonographer kept saying 'bubs' when referring to the baby...'here is bub's heart', 'here is bub's brain', blah blah...Then he said 'Here is his ....' a couple of times, before slipping back into using 'bub'. I was thinking 'ok, has he slipped up?' or was it just a generic term? We wanted to know the sex, so eventually asked him, and yes, he was a 'he'!

A friend of mine went for a scan for her 2nd preg and did NOT want to find out the sex. They had a 2 year old son, who they did not take to the scan. As they were leaving the sonographer said 'So, how old is your other son? oops!